Author of ‘Birth Space, Safe Place: emotional wellbeing through pregnancy and birth’ (Findhorn Press, 2009), former midwife Adela Stockton also provides doula courses (Mindful Doulas). For further information, see www.adelastockton.co.uk
She truly captures the essence of what I have always hoped readers might glean from this wee book – thank you!
What is Support?
Not judging, not telling your own story
Support is not offering advice …
Although written as if for mothers, if we replace the word ‘women’ for ‘men’, it becomes a poem for fathers too.
I was fortunate to have been invited to the annual ‘Gala Evening’ fundraiser event for our university campus, last week.
It was a ‘black tie’ do and I found myself seated between a Professor (our host) and a Doctor of Education who I had not previously met, both highly intelligent, interesting and interested men.
Inevitably the moment came when I was invited (by said Dr) to define a doula.
“But surely that’s the same thing as a midwife?” he responded, “What’s the difference?”
So, after reiterating the emotional, social and practical – rather than the clinical – support bit, I tried something new:
“Kind of like a birth auntie!”
The conversation then changed to another subject. However, some fine wine and a good dinner later in the evening, as we paused between Raffle and Auction, the delightful Dr reflected this term back at me in perfect context.
Yay, he so got it! I was so impressed! And it made me reflect on the possibility of using ‘Birth Auntie’ as a way of describing the doula more often …
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Thank you Sarah!